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How To Enjoy Sex With Your Partner: 8 Tips and Ideas

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You used to enjoy sex with your partner – but recently, the spark has started to fade away.

Well, there is nothing to worry about because every relationship has some dry days.

The reason behind that is couples stop making effort in the bed and treat sex as a chore rather than a pleasure activity together.

They just keep going for the same old vanilla sex which obviously becomes boring over time.

So if you too are in the same situation and are wondering how to enjoy sex with your partner then let’s go over 8 tips to help you spice things up.


1. Learn New Sex Positions

One of the main reasons why sex becomes boring is because couples stop experimenting. They’ve taken the phrase “stick to what works” too seriously.

There isn’t only missionary and doggy style which can obviously get monotonous, but a wide range of twists.

So if you want to get the spark back, then it’s about time that you bring some innovation to the bedroom.

If you’re lacking inspiration then you can either watch porn or simply, pick up a Kamasutra book.

Decide the sex positions according to the sexual preferences of your partner and whether they’re dominant or submissive.


2. Explore Your Sexual Fantasies

We all have different sexual fantasies that we often don’t share due to the fear of being judged.

So just remember that the key to making sex thrilling is to let your partner know that they can talk about anything with you.

No matter how wild their sexual turnons are, you won’t judge them for it and listen with an open mind.

And if you have a hard time to communicate your sexual intentions, use a sex menu.


3. Try Outdoor Sex

This might be a bit bold for some couples, but did you know that outdoor sex can be a great way to spice things up.

According to this survey of 2,000 Americans, 76% of them have had outdoor sex and 56% of the participants reported that it made them happier.

And the reason why outdoor sex is so thrilling is pretty simple – it’s human nature to get turned on by forbidden things.

It’s not just a change of scenery, but outdoor sex also makes you leave your comfort zone.

Just be careful of your surroundings because you don’t want to get caught.

But the fact that it’s not as convenient as having sex in the bedroom is exactly what makes it exciting.

So if you like the idea and are looking for some inspiration, then there are plenty of places for outdoor sex that we have covered in detail.


4. Communicate More With Your Partner

Some couples have natural chemistry. They exactly know how to please their partner as if they were born with this knowledge.

However, the same isn’t the case for everyone. And that’s fine.

Just because you don’t have natural chemistry with your partner doesn’t mean you can’t ever have good sex.

At the end of the day, it all boils down to communication.

Actively communicating with your partner about their turn-ons and turn-offs can not only improve your sex life but also, create a stronger bond.

And if you’re wondering how to talk to your partner about sex then here’s a video in which sex therapist Vanessa Marin shares some useful tips:


5. Consider Using Sex Toys

Sex toys have gained popularity over the past few years – and for good reasons.

For starters, the inclusion of sex toys in the bedroom can be a great way to take the pressure off your partner.

Because sometimes a man could be putting all his effort but he still might not be able to hit that G-spot.

At the same time, it can be a great learning experience for men on what buttons they need to push to maximize the pleasure for their partner.

So what are you waiting for!? Incorporate the use of sex toys into your daily sex life and you’d be surprised at the change they’d bring.


6. Watch Porn Movies Together

There’s a common misconception that watching porn with your partner harms the relationship.

People claim that it raises the bar in a relationship for what sex should be like.

But a recent study by Frontiers in Psychology shows that watching explicit content with your partner can actually be a great way to improve both your relationship and your sex life.

The reason is, that watching porn encourages couples to try new ideas and positions.

And most importantly, it sexually turns the couple on – which is essential if you want to avoid making sex feel like a chore.


7. Don’t Forget Lubrication

This one’s for all the men out there – sex is more than just putting your tool in the hole.

If you want to make sure that the experience is just as much as enjoyable for your partner as it’s for you, then make sure to focus on lubrication.

Some women get more naturally lubricated than others and vice versa. Maybe the natural lubrication of your partner’s vagina isn’t enough.

This can make penetration painful for her and also more challenging for you, which in turn, can take away all the pleasure from sex.

And if you want to go for anal sex, a water-based lubricant is mandatory. Or she won’t go for it anymore.


8. Make Some Noise

The only time when you should avoid making too much noise during sex is when you’re fucking outdoors.

Being vocal with your sighs, grunts, and moans during sex is a great way to let your partner know that you’re enjoying the experience.

It shows enthusiasm and lets them know that you’re enjoying the experience just as much as they are.

We would even go as far as to say that if your partner doesn’t mind then also throw some dirty talk into the mix.


9. Become Swingers

It might sound weird at first to entertain the thought to share your partner with somebody else, but actually, it can really spice up things for both of you.

Especially after years of a monogamous relationship, it can feel liberating to have sex with others.

Not only that, but if done right it will strengthen your bond. The reason is swinging requires improving the communication with your partner and strengthening the trust.

To get started simply read our article on how to become a swinger.




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