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How To Get Laid At A Bar Or Nightclub For Guys

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I’m going to show the best way to get laid at a bar or nightclub in eight easy-to-implement steps.

There are so many hot for action girls out at night having fun, and they secretly wish to have sex with the right guy before getting back home.

When you follow the steps below, you’ll be getting laid most nights. It’s just a process like making a recipe but without having to get dirty or face rejection.

Here the steps we’ll cover:

  1. Go out in bars and nightclubs popular among girls
  2. Don’t dress to impress, but to feel confident
  3. Don’t wait to approach
  4. Have a natural conversation
  5. Have an icebreaker
  6. Flirt
  7. Make your move
  8. Being fit help a lot


1. Go Out In Bars And Nightclubs Popular Among Girls

The guys who pick up girls for casual sex regularly go out to those bars and clubs with fewer men and many girls. That puts them in a strong position where they are the prize.

For example, most ladies’ nights have the girls outnumber the boys. And after a few drinks with the girlfriends, they want to get laid and hopefully find a boyfriend. It’s pretty common to have sex first, and later get into a relationship.

So, the math matter when it comes to pick up girls and have a nightstand.

On the other hand, weekends or places with more men then women put you at disadvantage simply because the competition is higher. The more choices women have, the harder will be to convince them to have sex with you.


2. Don’t Dress To Impress, But To Feel Confident

When we look good, we feel good. And when we feel good, we play well. This is really important when it comes to getting laid.

When you go out to hook up, make sure that you’re dressed to feel confident rather than to impress. This means wearing clothes that make you feel comfortable.

Yet, look smart but don’t overdo things so that you’re too extravagant. You want to wear clothes that fit you perfectly, that have been properly ironed and which you feel comfortable in.

Also, do some research about the places you’ll be going to meet girls. What’s the dress code? What clothes do handsome men typically wear at these places?

You want to make sure that your clothes are in keeping with what most men wear. Otherwise, you may end up sticking out like a sore thumb for all the wrong reasons.


3. Don’t Wait To Approach

Okay, let’s imagine that you head out to a bar or a club and that there are girls there. Eventually, you spot a girl that you like the look of, and who seems to be checking you out, too.

Rush over there without hesitation.

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If you start to think about what to say, the anxiety will build up and paralyze you.

Also, if you move in too late, well, another guy might get there first, or she might leave the bar.

So when’s the right time to make your approach?

There’s a bit of an art to this, and you’ll get better the more you do it. Ideally, you need to first of all be sure a girl is interested.

How can you find this out? Pay attention to her body language. Is she looking over at you whilst hanging out with her friends? Has she smiled at you yet? Does she keep looking over at you?

All of these are surefire signals that she’s interested in you.

At the same time, you can’t just rush over there and make your approach. For example, what if she’s engaged in a deep conversation with her friends?

A good idea is to take a look at her expression. If she looks fairly bored, now is a good time to make your approach.


4. Relax And Have a Natural Conversation

Here’s the sad truth: nervous and shy guys struggle to get laid. They might actually be handsome, but if they avoid eye contact and fumble over their words, they never get laid.

As such, you can’t make your approach until you know for sure you’re a confident guy.

confident guy approaching girl at the bar

What does being a confident guy mean?

It means making eye contact with a girl, smiling at her and start a conversation without hesitation. It also means speaking with enthusiasm and positivity about yourself (don’t brag but don’t put yourself down either).

And it translates as you have every right to walk up to this girl and chat with her because you’re a handsome, attractive and successful male.


5. Have an Icebreaker

Have an opening line that works in most situations, it’s a great way to get a conversation going.

A cheesy pick-up line rarely cuts it these days, and neither does something self-absorbed.

Instead, it’s better to create a great first impression by introducing yourself and asking the girl her name. In other words, keep it simple and natural.

For example: “Hey, I’m Evan – what’s your name?”

Often, that’s all you need to do.

Of course, you then need to transition to a new topic of conversation but a lot of the time that stuff just comes naturally.


6. Flirt 

If you don’t flirt with a girl, how can you expect to get laid tonight?!

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She needs to know you’re interested in her for sex, and that you’re not just here to make a new friend for the night. She also needs to know what you’re doing, and being a good flirt is the best way to show her.

Flirting is actually easier than it sounds. Here are some tips:

  • Make eye contact (but don’t keep staring into her eyes, that’s just creepy and will freak her out)
  • Tease her! Girls love to be teased
  • Playfully touch her hair or her shoulder (not her leg just yet)
  • Compliment her

Act as though she instigated this moment (“I saw you looking over at me the whole time so I came over to see what you wanted!”). It doesn’t matter if she wasn’t looking at you the whole time, this is just good flirtatious banter.

When you chat and flirt with a girl, though, make sure that you involve her friends, too. Otherwise, you may come across as a douche, and her friends might conspire to put her off you.


7. Make Your Move

The thing is you could get laid that night when you first meet a girl if you let her know that you want to have sex with her right now… Or you could arrange to see her again soon. It all depends on the context and what you/she wants.

For example, if you’re in a club and the two of you are dancing and kissing, there’s every chance you should maximize this opportunity by asking if she wants to go back to your place.

If, on the other hand, she’s in a bar with her friends and they’re heading elsewhere in a group, it might be a better idea to say that you’ve really enjoyed talking to her and that you’d like to see her again soon.

Then, you can exchange numbers and arrange a proper date, whereby you can get to know her more, flirt with her some more – and take her back to your place.

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If you go down this route, make sure you don’t come across as either clingy, possessive or jealous in the texts you send before you meet her again.

The best thing to do is to arrange a date and then to not text until you see her. That way, you’re playing it cool, you’re building a bit of mystery around yourself, and you’re not talking yourself out of a date.

That sort of thing is sexy and she’ll appreciate it.


8. Being Fit Helps a Lot

Can out of shape guys get laid? Possibly.

But in order to increase your chances of getting laid whenever you want each time you head out to a bar, it’s a good idea to work out.

Guys who clearly look after themselves always do better with women who are looking for sex. This is a fact. When you go to bars and clubs at night, appearances matter a lot.

Moreover, by working out, you’ll develop more personal self-esteem, which will help with your confidence when it comes to picking up women.

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  • Louise And Dan

    We are born and bred Californians who love socializing, adventures, and sex. Being active in the ethical non-monogamy communities here locally and online, it's only natural for us to start this site to provide a 100% honest source of information about the sexual lifestyle in some of the world’s liberated adult destinations. We spend most of our free time traveling to hook up with singles, couples, and people of all genders around the world.