How to Date a Tranny – 9 Straight Tips
Most people say that dating a trans woman is pretty much the same as dating a cis woman.
We agree with this to some extent… However, if we go into the specifics then there’s one major difference – the experience.
And by experience, we don’t mean personal preferences and personality.
We’re talking about their transition and how you have to be accepting while careful with your words around them.
So if you’re wondering how to date a tranny, then this guide will share some practical tips to help you out.
But first, let’s talk about where you can find a trans woman, to begin with.
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Where to Find Trannies
Before dating a tranny, the real challenge is to find a transgender woman. There are two reasons for that.
- One is the fact that there are many of them compared to cis women.
- The other is, that a large majority of trans women still aren’t comfortable about sharing their journey in public.
So while it’s possible, the likelihood that you’ll find them partying in a regular nightclub is extremely low.
Instead, the best places to find a tranny would be pride events and LGBT friendly clubs.
Yet, only big cities provide such places and opportunities.
With that said, if you’re looking for a sure-fire way to meet a tranny then that would be to sign-up on trans specific dating sites and apps.
Tips to Date a Trans Person
1. Don’t Use the Word Tranny
You probably saw the word “tranny” being casually thrown around in porn videos and titles.
But did you know that this word is considered to be offensive in the trans community?
Even if you look up its definition online, you’d see that it is labeled as disparaging and offensive
It makes trans women feel like an object and if by chance you happen to use this word while dating, she’ll dump you on the spot.
2. Do Your Homework
We live in the age of the internet. You have all the information that you need about trans women at your fingertips.
So the last thing you want to do is to turn your date into a classroom.
It’s fine to ask questions about her journey and transition like at what step she’s at.
But being completely unaware and asking things like what’s the difference between a trans woman and a crossdresser is off-limits.
YOu should make the effort to find an answer to such basic questions.
3. Treat Them with Respect
This should be obvious enough but every human needs to be treated with respect. Sadly though, the trans community faces a lot of discrimination on a regular basis.
Cis men often treat them in a disrespectful way and objectify them. So just treating them with respect give you an immense advantage.
But by any means, courting trans women shouldn’t be your only motivation to respect them.
4. Don’t Compare Them to CIS Women
While talking to trannies doesn’t make them feel that they are any different than cis women.
Here’s a video in which Bella Joie shares this point…
Referring to cis women as “normal women” is offensive for any trans person. The reason is in a way you’re implying that trans women are abnormal.
This also invalidates their journey and transition while also making you look ignorant in the process.
In short, just treat a trans woman the way you would treat any cis woman, and you would be good to go.
5. Keep Your Expectations in Check
Trans women are often oversexualized and cis men think that they’re horny 24/7.
The reason behind that is because of the way they’re represented in porn. However, sorry to burst your bubble but that isn’t the case.
Trans women aren’t mystical beings or sexual unicorns who would be ready to fuck you all the time. They have their turn-ons and turn-offs like every other person.
So if you’re talking to a tranny, don’t ask if she wants to sleep with you after 10 minutes of conversation.
6. Avoid Asking Stupid Questions
We mentioned this earlier as well, but in case it isn’t clear– while you’re around trans women, you have to be extra careful with your words.
If you’re curious about her transition, then there’s nothing wrong with asking questions.
But you can word it in a more polite way like at what step they’re on in their transition?
Asking questions like “do you have a penis” or “did you get tits implanted yet?” just sounds offensive and would make you look like a clown.
7. Be Accepting of Their Transition
Understand that transitioning is a long, emotional and expensive process. It doesn’t happen in a day.
The maximum effect can take 2-3 or even 5 years. So when dating a tranny during her transition then you have to be patient.
This also means that you have to be secure in the relationship and not be embarrassed while you’re around her.
Be the same person for them in public that you are behind closed doors.
Even if PDA isn’t your thing, at least make her believe that you’re genuinely interested in showing some affection.
Keep in mind trans women can easily sense when a man is feeling insecure about dating them in public.
8. Do Not Fetishize Trans Woman
Lastly, don’t say things like “I’ve always dreamed of dating a trans women”.
This just implies that you are fetishizing them and aren’t genuinely interested in them as a person.
It also implies that you’re thinking of trans women as just a disposable sex fantasy.
And think of it this way – would you ever tell a cis woman that “I’ve already fetishized about dating women.”
You probably won’t because it sounds downright stupid – so the same is the case for trans women.
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