Do you feel awkward and shy around guys and don’t know how to grab their attention?
If so, then don’t worry because flirting is a skill that doesn’t come naturally to everyone. Even the most confident women can feel flustered around men they like.
But what if we told you that flirting and teasing men is quite easy?
Once you learn how to use your feminine charm he’d be head over heels for you in no time.
So if you’re wondering how to flirt with men, then continue reading as we go over 12 tips to help you master this art.
1. Lock Eyes with Him
As simple as it may sound, locking eyes with a person is one of the easiest ways to express interest in them.
But don’t mix locking eyes with creepily staring at him without even a blink.
Naturally though, if you’re trying to flirt with someone through eye contact, you’ll be looking a lot in their direction.
Wait for them to meet your gaze and as soon as your eyes lock, don’t look away instantly.
Hold their gaze for 2-3 seconds, and drop a hint either by smiling or through your body language and then look away.
2. Captivate Him with a Smile
Smiling and eye contact complement each other and often go together.
Because if you’re smiling at someone, then obviously, you’ll also have your eyes locked with them.
And it makes sense if you think about it because just staring at a man isn’t usually enough to express your interest.
It can even give the wrong signal and make him wonder if he did something wrong.
But what’s the “right” way to smile when you’re trying to flirt? Well, a flirty smile isn’t about showing your pearly whites.
A flirtatious smile is more like a slight smirk that is combined with direct eye contact.
3. Flirt With Him by Texting
If you lack confidence, then you may have a hard time adapting to the tips above. So another way to capture his attention is by flirting with him on text.
That’s because it’s much easier to say things by texting than to say things in real life. In addition, texting can be a great way to become more comfortable around a person.
So if you haven’t already then it’s about time that you try obtaining his digits.
4. Be Confident In Your Charm
Regardless of gender, the key to successfully flirting is to be confident in your charm.
You don’t have to be the most attractive person in the room to get his attention – you only have to learn how to use your feminine energy.
After all, most men have an undeniable attraction to soft feminine women.
We know some may think this is an old concept, especially in today’s society where people are starting to ditch gender roles.
However, there’s still plenty of research that shows femininity attracts masculinity and vice versa.
While of course, everyone has their own preferences, generally speaking, most men are attracted to feminine women.
5. Drop Body Language Hints
Flirty body language is one of the easiest ways to attract a man. Your body language signs mainly depend on the type of relationship you want to create with him.
If you’re romantically interested then you’ll have to be a bit more subtle with your hints.
Because if you easily become sexually available to him then he’d only be interested in hooking up with you.
So we would suggest you avoid showing cleavage or directly touching him that exhibits direct sexual interest.
Instead, some subtle body language signs that you can drop are:
- Touch and twirl your hair
- Slowly bite your lips while looking at him
- Sit closer and lean towards him
If you want to learn more, this video by Anna Bey shares some more body language secrets to turn men on:
6. Leave Him Wanting More
As frustrating as the waiting game might sound, it can actually do wonders for you and can also help build sexual tension.
Backing off during a flirting session, or even waiting for him to text you first is a critical part of retaining his attention.
If you want to tease him, don’t rush into revealing things about yourself and your personality. We know, this sounds dramatic and flimsy, but men love mysterious women.
So giving more too early might actually make him lose interest towards you.
7. Show Interest in His Life
Men may not often show it but they love women who show interest in their life, hobbies and passions.
Just a casual conversation in which you’re trying to know more about his likes and dislikes might be enough to attract him.
So listen to what he says with close attention, and ask open-ended questions to show that you’re actually interested.
8. Start with Playful Touches
Normalizing touch is important, especially if you want him to be the one to make a move.
Plus, studies show that holding hands, hugging, kiss on the cheek and other playful touches can be a great way to boost comfort and satisfaction.
If he’s a shy guy then these playful touches over time can also encourage him to make a move.
9. Tease Him Playfully
Teasing is a crucial part of flirting, but unfortunately, most people don’t know how to do it right.
So let’s start with some things that you shouldn’t do while you’re trying to tease:
- Don’t make fun of his appearance.
- Don’t taunt him over his lack of knowledge.
- Don’t make him feel emasculated.
Instead, here are some things you can do to flirt with him by teasing:
- Make dirty jokes and ask flirty questions.
- Lean toward to kiss him and pull away at the last moment.
- Jokingly disagree with him even if you know he’s right.
10. Look Your Best
Remember girls, you don’t need to look like a Victoria’s Secret Model to attract a man. The only thing you need to do is to look your best.
Dressing up nicely and having an adorable hairstyle might be enough to make him think about you.
11. Make Him Feel Wanted
Believe it or not, men also love compliments and a flirty compliment is enough to make his day.
It’s a way of telling him that you’re noticing him and he’s wanted. So if you want to make your compliments look flirtatious then just mix up the words a bit.
Instead of saying that “this color looks nice on you” tell him that “you look sexy in this color”.
12. Try Asking Him Out
Have you tried everything and he still isn’t making a move?
Well then, the reason for that could be because he’s shy and unconfident.
So the last resort for you is to simply take the initiative and ask him out. Make a plan to go to a movie, dinner, or even a concert together.
If he bails you out on that then the chances are that he simply isn’t interested.