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Why Do Guys Hook Up With The Same Girl – 9 Reasons

Does a guy you recently hooked up with show continued sexual interest and keeps coming back for more?

Maybe you want to know if he has feelings for you… Or perhaps you just don’t get why do guys keep going back to the same girl without committing.

If you’re an overthinker, it can make you wonder if there’s something more to it than meets the eye.

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Here are 9 possible reasons why guys hook up with the same girl.


1. The Sex Is Too Good

A good orgasm works like a magnet. No matter how far you go, you’ll be propelled back for more.

So did you two bang like it’s the end of the world? If so, you got your answer.

The chances are that he may have only wanted a one-time thing. But the sex was so incredible that he can’t simply resist you anymore.

If you enjoyed the experience equally as much as he did, then we see no harm in carrying on with it.


2. He Wants a Long-Term FWB

Instead of one-time flings, most men prefer having continued sexual involvement. A study conducted by Personal Relationships further solidifies that.

So if he’s hitting you up more frequently, then he probably wants a long-term FWB. After all, it can always be nice to have someone who you could resort for sexual gratification.

But if you play along with it, keep your romantic expectations in check.

If confused, it doesn’t hurt to ask whether he wants to keep it casual or something more serious.


3. He Wants to De-stress

Sex can often be a great way to de-stress yourself. You can take all the frustration out in the bed.

Even scientifically speaking, ejaculation causes dopamine to be released into the body – a chemical associated with pleasure.

This is one of the reasons men often masturbate when they feel frustrated. But in this case, why would he masturbate when he can directly have sex.

So if you notice that he usually comes to you right after work, then this might be the reason.


4. You Two Have a Good Chemistry

Even if you’re hooking up with someone for the first time, it can work incredibly well. Some sexual interactions feel very natural, and this might be the case for the two of you.

It’s hard to find sexual compatibility. People have different preferences in bed. Some prefer dominating, while others prefer staying submissive.

And as mentioned by Matthew Hussey in the video below, when two people find a partner with a similar positive sexual energy, they feel comfortable…

Basically, he feels to know you deeply sexually and comes back for more.


5. He’s Developing Feelings For You

Can a man sleep with a woman without developing feelings? It depends.

The good thing is that this isn’t difficult to catch. If there’s only sexual interest, he’d only hit you up when he’s feeling horny.

But if he’s developing feelings, you’d start hearing from him more often.

He would try to know more about you. Even in bed, he will try having more intimate moments with you.

And most importantly, he’ll be interested in cuddling after sex. It’s up to you whether you want to keep it casual or pursue a romantic relationship.


6. He Has No One Else to Hook Up With

He might only be hooking up with you because he has no other option. It may break your heart, but this is one of the most common reasons.

In such a situation, you can also treat him like your sex toy. Or simply, stop giving him any action.

If you’re starting to develop feelings for him, then we suggest the latter. Being treated like an option will only affect your mental health.

However, as long as you aren’t developing any feelings, you two can continue benefitting each other.


7. You Know How to Keep Secrets

If you know how to keep secrets, then that’s probably another reason he keeps coming back to you. Men, in general, prefer keeping their sex lives discreet, especially if they’re in a relationship.

This is even truer if they’re hooking up with a girl from their social circle. He can’t risk hooking up with every woman he finds hot because his partner might find out.

Did you two hook up at a party once and now, it has become a regular thing? That’s likely because you remained hush about it.

So if you enjoy it, carry on, but you now have dirt on him.


8. It’s Convenient for Him

Finding a private place to bang can be a challenge itself.

If you can call him to your place without any worries, then that’s another potential cause of the recurring hookups.

After all, booking hotels is expensive, especially when banging multiple times a month.

However, if you can call him to your place, then that’s incredibly convenient.

He can get laid without having to spend any money. So that’s a win-win situation for him.


9. He Can’t Get Enough of Your Skill

Having a special skill like giving mind-blowing oral games might be attractive to him. You may have sucked him off like a pornstar and swallowed his load like a goddess.

This is every men’s weakness, and if you’ve done that, then pat yourself on the back.

You have all the skills you need to make yourself irresistible to any man.


Does Hooking Up With a Guy More Than Once Mean Anything?

It isn’t uncommon to develop romantic feelings for a guy you frequently hook up with. This is why hookups are all about how well you can compartmentalize yourself.

If you can have sex with him without developing any feelings, then bang as many times as you want. It won’t mean a thing.

However, if this is something that you struggle with, then we suggest taking some space.

And if you’re wondering what’s on his mind, then refer to the reasons we’ve discussed above.




  • Ashley Miller

    Ashley Miller is a Dating Coach and author for She teaches women how to deal with self-esteem and insecurities issues and how to flirt, have casual hookups, or get into a serious relationship. She has many years of personal coaching experience and is particularly passionate about helping people to find dating success regardless of race or gender. You will find her cooking delicious pies, enjoying a book, or playing skying in her free time.